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Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Update from the farm.....

What a difference a couple of weeks can make. I am in WV to wisk my dad off to chemo visit # 9 (only 3 more to go after today), and I was very apprehensive about this visit. The last trip was filled with anger and silence from my mom. She is really having a hard time dealing with my father's cancer and all the things that monster is doing to his body.

Since mom cannot talk due to her stroke 10 years ago, the only way her anger can manifest itself is in silence. The dirty looks and the scowls are heart renching at times. Maybe she is just going through all the stages of grief and my brother and I are witnessing it. If so, she appears to be moving through the anger phase into acceptance. Whatever it is, it is making life more tolerable for my dad and the rest of us.

As I said, dad will go for chemo today and since it is a very low dose to only keep him comfortable, he should not have too many side effects. The pain from the cancer and the exhaustion from the chemotherapy have become the new normal for my dad and it has mellowed him some. Not that he couldn't have used mellowing..... :o) Acceptance has come much more easy for him I think, and he is taking this time to evaluate and reevaluate his life and it making some changes in the way he views life and the people around him.

Some distressing news on mom though as she is scheduled for an EKG in September and is facing a heart valve repair or replacement and a possible triple bypass. The cardiologist wanted to do the operation a year ago, but was not sure that mom would survive the operation. I am not sure he is convinced that she will now, but the situation is becoming more serious, so the doctor will make the decision after the EKG.

So there are the current events from my little piece of the world. Continued prayers are very much felt and appreciated.

Until nex time.

3 comments:

Debby said...

You have a plate full. It is so hard when our parents age. I will say some prayers for you and your parents. Hope things go okay for you.

Traci Michele said...

Lots to pray for your way! Continue to lean upon the Lord. He will be your strength!

Love,
Traci

imoomie said...

I relate to what your saying, I never really looked this far ahead or prepared myself...peace be with you.

 
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