Hello all my Bloggy Pals.
I have done pretty well at avoiding the blues this year even tho it is the first Christmas without Mom. Last Christmas was the first without Dad, but still having Mom to celebrate with helped to calm the grief of missing him. We still wanted Mom to have a good Christmas so we focused on the joy of the holiday - the presents and decorations and a wonderful Christmas Eve church service.
Mom also had a December birthday so there is some additional sadness this month. To help celebrate and remember Mom, I took my daughter and granddaughter to the Nutcracker on her birthday. Mom would have LOVED it and I am sure she was right there with us - watching and enjoying watching her great granddaughter at her first ballet.
I am trying to keep the Christmas Spirit and to stay busy so as not to become too sad. But is it so bad to be sad at this time of year? I am not talking about wallowing in self pity here, but just being sad when remembering the good times from past Christmases?
My church has a Blue Christmas service during Christmas week for those that have lost loved ones during the year. I am sure it is a celebration and a remembrance service and can't we all use a little bit of that at this time of year to remember those we have lost?
But I also think it is a great idea for the service to put the focus on the REASON for the season and to remember the JOY of the season as well as the grief of the first Christmas without mom. There are still a lot of firsts to come up during the next few months and I want to find a way to channel joy and good memories instead of sadness and grief.
Until next time....
Keep on Creating!!!!
6 comments:
You had so much that haooened at the saem time last year. You may still be processing that. I think what you are feeling is really normal. Holidays bring all the loss right up front and center. Hopefully the little ones will pull you through the season. Big (((((HUGS))))) for you. Hope it gets better.
Kim, I am sitting right next to you crying, hugging you and remembering our moms. I lost my mom and dad both within a short time period and a few years ago I wanted snow so bad on Christmas. We sat and opened our gifts and not one flake. The last gift was mine from my mom. I opened it and burst into tears, my husband looked at the mug a cheap dollar store job that said let it snow, but I was crying and pointing outside because just as I opened that gift it began to snow! My mom didn't make it to the following Christmas, but for some reason this morning I felt compelled to bring her mug out and have my coffee as I was reading through my blogs. I love you my dear friend and will keep you close, the Christmas Blues for me come in waves when I least expect them, but your post helped me to realize I am not the only one.
Blessings upon you!
Kim, thanks you for sharing your thoughts on losing your mother. I can so relate to this all. My Mom passed away in 2006. I took care of her for the last 6 months. My Father passed away in 2001 and my brother passed away in 2009. I still have sad moments. I feel that they are close and I don't think they miss the special events. In fact, I think that is one reason to be happy because they are near and not that far away. Anyway, that is just my belief.
Blessings to you and keep on enjoying the special moments and I am sure she is near you too.
I can so relate to how you feel. I lost my Dad in 2001 and I still break out and cry. I had my mother live with us for her last 5 months and she passed away in 2006. My oldest brother passed away in 2010. It doesn't take much for me to break out in tears over any of them and then grief spreads out to all of them.
If I didn't have faith that I would see them again; it would be worse.
I know that they are near by and I know that they don't miss those sweet occasions. I have felt their presence at different times through these years.
Blessings to you and enjoy the precious moments of this season.
There is so much joy to grasp hold of through our Savior, Jesus Christ
Hugs,
LeAnn
Thinking of you Kim. You always have such a wonderful positive outlook. It is okay to be sad, to miss our loved ones, especially when everything is so new. It is wonderful that your church offers a service that acknowledges and validate the sadness that is natural when we are grieving the loss of those special people in our lives. ~Blessings, Janet
HUGS! I think we all have a tear or two this time of year remembering those who are no longer with us. Those first years are the roughest thought. Hope you were surrounded by enough family and friends to make the day go well. Children seem to be the best cure for such days!
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