Dieting???? That is the question.... OH don't worry, I haven't given up on my resolution yet. But you REALLY need to head on over to Simple Mom to read about her thoughts on dieting.
WOW, they were words I needed and they came WHEN I needed them. Here are some excerpts of what she had to say:
"We use food as a weapon. We use food as a numbing agent. We use food as a coveted illicit pleasure in a game where we test how long we can resist it to prove our strength. We use food as everything but how it is meant to be used… an enjoyable, health-giving tool."
"Become aware—deeply aware—and curious about how foods make you literally and emotionally feel. Not whether the food is bad or good. Not whether it is right or wrong to eat it. When we release the restriction and the judgement that food is good or bad, we can also release the deeper judgement that we are good or bad for choosing those foods."
Do you beat yourself up when it comes to food? I know that I do. I have bruises that never go away I think. I would love to have the frame of mind that Simple Mom does. I REALLY would. So how do I get to that point?
I know one way that can start that new thinking. Stop thinking that I screwed up one meal or one snack or one entire day (or week) and bonk myself over and over for it while continuing down the 'pig out' path. I beat myself up so bad that I figure I already blew it so might as well keep on going.
SERIOUSLY..... how detrimental is that to my thinking or my resolve to be healthy? VERY!!!!
I am asking you all if you have any ideas for softer blows instead of the full on slugs. You know, the self-depricating, full punch in the belly comments like "You will never lose weight", "You have NO will power", " You have blown it already today, so you might as well just keep eating".
I need your help. Do you have things that you say to yourself that are positive? Words of kindness to confirm that you made a 'small' mistake which is not an indication of WHO your are? A way to remind yourself that you made a mistake but It does not have to affect the rest of the day? Keep in mind, it doesn't even have to pertain to food, cuz believe me, my derogatory comments don't stop at my food choices. OH NO, when I am beating myself up, I do a bang-up, down and dirty job on myself.
If you have ANY ideas for me, I would love to hear them. I know that I have a lot of soul work to do, and maybe this could be the start of something BIG. Are you with me?
Until next time....
Keep on creating!